Information overload and faux relationships have been a topic lately at my house. Well, it has been a topic I have begun to flesh out while my husband listens! With blogs, facebook, myspace and twitter (just to name a few) it seems we are creating faux relationships with people. Surely I am not the only one who feels this way.
I have a facebook account that I access every day, a myspace account that I never use and I use twitter to keep my facebook updated. While this blog has suffered lately twitter catches the tidbits of my day.
But here is the thing…none of those replace my friendships…my true friendships. I have over 250 friends on facebook. Yet, I do not talk to all of them often…some I just went to school with and while it is nice to see how they are doing, they are not really a needed part of my life.
I thought it through last night and came up with this: Of my 5 closest friends, 4 have facebook, 2 have blogs, 1 has a myspace (I think) and 0 twitter. Does this mean I do not know what is up in their lives? Not at all!
Out of those 5 I see only 2 regularly (thank goodness for church and small group or I might never see these gals much!). One, I see about once a month, Another, I see maybe twice a year and the other I simply keep up with by phone (Christy!). My friendships with these girls has nothing to do with status updates or tagging them in notes on facebook. They know my life because they want to know it…and I want to know theirs! One of my closest friends calls just to chat (or check on one of the boys when it has been a week like this). She is not dependent on reading my updates on facebook to know when to call…in fact she does not have any of those accounts I mentioned.
I just wonder if in the process of ‘connecting’ with other people that we are losing true connections with people. If facebook and twitter replace face to face (or phone to phone) conversations are really really doing life with people anymore?
What are your thoughts?